In life, there are polar opposites to everything …. Happiness and sadness, rich and poor, overweight and slim, success and failure, light and dark, and so on. It is the contrast and the differences between things that can really help us to clarify what we want in life. When it comes to living and creating our lives, there is what we want and there is what we don’t want.
In order to create what we want in our lives, we need to focus on what we want. If we want more money, we need to focus on prosperity and having more money. If we want the relationship of our dreams, we need to focus on being in the relationship of our dreams. If we want to have a fit and athletic body, then we need to focus on being fit and athletic.
The problem we face is that we tend to focus on the things that we don’t want in our lives, and that is generally what we are going through at that point in time.
When most people are trying to create something, it is something that they want, but don’t yet have, or it is something that they have or are currently going through, but don’t want. And this is the big problem.
If you’re focusing on what you don’t want or that you lack what you do want, then your point of attraction is on what you don’t want or on lack, and that is what you are creating more of.
If you don’t have a lot of money, and you find yourself struggling financially, then it is difficult to feel rich and prosperous when you’re worrying about your future or how you’re going to pay the next bill. If you’re overweight and struggling for breath every time you walk up a flight of stairs, it can be difficult to focus on being fit, slim and at your ideal weight. If you eat dinner alone every night it can be difficult to focus on being in that relationship you want, and it can seem more elusive than ever.
But in order to consciously ’create’ the life of your dreams and have the money, the relationship, the health, the body, whatever it is that you want, you must focus your attention on what you want.
This is where visualisation, and even daydreaming comes in.
When we were children, we would often be interrupted out of our daydreams by our parents or our teachers who would tell us to stop daydreaming. But daydreaming can help us to identify and visualise what we want in our lives.
As important as it is to think about what you want, and to visualise it, the real power to consciously creating your dreams comes from ‘feeling’ that you have what you want, or that what you want has happened. You get what you’re ’feeling’ in life. If you’re feeling bad about the bills and the increasing debt that seems to be arriving on an almost daily basis, then you’ll keep attracting more debt, which in turn will make you feel worse about debt, which will create more debt and so on…. until you end up in a negative cycle that seems like it will ever end.
It can be difficult to control your feelings, because it can be very difficult to control your thoughts.
If you’re struggling to control your thoughts and feelings, rather than trying to control your thoughts all the time, try a strategy where you consciously control your thoughts for small chunks of time.
Set aside a block of 5 to 15 minutes to consciously visualise what it is that you want. If you’re struggling to find a block of time during your day where you can visualise in peace with no distractions, then don’t worry, you can even do it when you’re doing something else (as long as it's safe to do so) and going about your daily routine. During that time, daydream and see the final result in your head. Imagine what you would feel, see, hear and touch, (and smell and taste if appropriate) if you had your heart’s desire. Use as many senses as you can – the more the better! If your mind wanders back to negative thoughts during this time, don’t worry, just go back to your daydream. The more you realise when you’re thinking negative thoughts and go back to your daydream, the easier and quicker it will become. The most important thing is to develop the discipline of going back to your daydream when you find yourself wandering off to negative thoughts.
Enjoy your daydreaming time, like a child would, do it as many times as you can throughout the day. The more the better!
If you develop the discipline of visualising and daydreaming your desires, you’ll be well on your way to consciously creating the life that you could only previously (day)dream about!
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